Hey friends, I’m baaaack! What a week it has been. On Tuesday, while I was in the middle of working on blog schtuff, my computer shut down and never turned back on. (RIP old-new laptop). I don’t know what happened exactly, but I’m hoping that it was a defect in that particular laptop. So I shamelessly sat and sulked on Tuesday until I could go in to exchange it for a new one on Wednesday. They had to special order it for me, but I ended up getting refunded the sale price!
Then on Wednesday evening, my husband asked me to drive him around to find the source of what sounded like a bad wheel bearing. We weren’t even around the block from our house when I got pulled over for speeding. So that was frustrating moment number two. But to even out the score, the police officer let me off with a verbal warning. Thank you, clean driving record and honesty!
Also on Wednesday, I went to the doctor and had to have some tests run. I was so late to my appointment due to construction that they didn’t have a chance to go over their findings with me. So I’m going back tomorrow to find out what’s up. Real talk: I’m pretty nervous about what the doctor is going to say. Any positive thoughts, prayers, + healing vibes are appreciated!
So if you’ve been following along with me for any bit of time, you’ll know that anxiety is something I’ve struggled with for a long time. That’s why today I’m outlining 4 action steps you can take to worry less and feel happier now. I have been using these steps all week to help me to quiet my mind and get through each day. So far, they have been really helpful for me and I hope they can help you too!
4 Action Steps to Worry Less and Feel Happier Now
1. Get it All Out
Whatever your going through must be really important and worrisome to you, otherwise you wouldn’t be concerned enough about it to be reading an article about how to worry less. If you’re like a lot of people, you might notice that you can’t find a balance between full out worrying like crazy and stuffing all your feelings in and acting like nothing’s wrong at all. Unfortunately, that can lead to physical side effects like headaches, stomach aches, and exhaustion. No good. The feelings have to go somewhere, so be intentional about how and when they come out!
ACTION STEP: Set aside a specific time to worry your little heart out. I’m serious! This will go either of two ways for you. Either A: it will be time for you to worry and you can finally let your feelings go, or B: you’ll realize that your worry has subsided. So set a reminder on your phone to sit down and fully process whatever is happening for you.Set aside time to worry. You'll be thankful that you did or you'll won't be worried anymore. Click To Tweet
This weekend, I went to a wedding for some dear friends of ours. (Congrats again, guys!) My husband was one of the groomsmen, so there were times during the night that he was off doing groomsmen things and I was hanging out by myself. And when I was left by myself, my brain instantly thought “You’re not doing anything! Here’s a reminder of everything you’re afraid of.” I had to remind myself that this was not the time to worry. I’d have time to think about all that stuff when I got home. Just knowing that I’d have a moment at the end of the day to entertain my stress was enough to be able to worry less and get back onto the dance floor. It’s so simple guys.
Guys, sometimes feeling crazy is worse than whatever you’re worried about! Make sure you take the time to validate whatever you’re going through. Think back on your experiences to figure out why you might feel this way in the first place. For example, “If I hadn’t have gone through ____, I wouldn’t be feeling this way.” Therefore, whatever the reason you’re worried, it is valid, legitimate, and okay. It’s how you handle your worries that matters.Whatever you feel is valid, legitimate, and okay. It's how you handle them that counts. Click To Tweet
ACTION STEP: Write down some affirmations that feel validating to you. If you aren’t sure where to start, try these on for size:
“It’s okay for me to be scared.”
“I will get through this even if it’s scary.”
“I’m taking steps to feel better.”
Repeat these affirmations whenever you need a pick-me-up.
3. Make a Plan
One of the worst parts about worrying is the “what-ifs.” So answer those questions! Come to a solution and give yourself one thing to worry less about.
ACTION STEP: Make a list of all your what-if’s, and then answer them! Make sure you’re nice and specific. Think about the likelihood of any of those fears coming true and rate them on a scale from 0-10. For each what-if, answer a “then” and a “how.” For example:
What if I get a bad review at work? Likelihood: 4/10. Then I would improve my performance by asking my boss for specific feedback on what I should work on.Answer your what-if's to make an action plan for your worries. Click To Tweet
4. Make Changes or Accept Reality
Now that you’ve learned so much about your worries (good job by the way!), is there anything you can do about it? If so, go do it! You can do all the things! If there’s nothing you can do, that’s okay too.
Fighting against worry does not help you worry less. In fact, it does quite the opposite. Have you ever paddled upstream only to feel exhausted? So you take a break and find that you’ve floated back to where you came from? Dealing with worry is sort of like that. So go with the flow. Going with the flow does not mean accepting life without question. You are given a paddle. So take charge of the flow.Go with the flow, and use your paddle to control your direction. Click To Tweet
ACTION STEP: Get out there and enjoy your life. If there’s something tangible you can do about your worry, go do it. You’ll feel so much better once you do. If there’s literally nothing you can do, try to do something to take your mind off your worry.
How do you worry less? Is there anything getting you down this week? Let me know in the comments and we can check in with each other!