4 Action Steps to Worry Less and Feel Happier Now

4 Action Steps to Worry Less and Feel Happier Now

Hey friends, I’m baaaack! What a week it has been. On Tuesday, while I was in the middle of working on blog schtuff, my computer shut down and never turned back on.  (RIP old-new laptop). I don’t know what happened exactly, but I’m hoping that it was a defect in that particular laptop. So I shamelessly sat and sulked on Tuesday until I could go in to exchange it for a new one on Wednesday. They had to special order it for me, but I ended up getting refunded the sale price!

Then on Wednesday evening, my husband asked me to drive him around to find the source of what sounded like a bad wheel bearing. We weren’t even around the block from our house when I got pulled over for speeding. So that was frustrating moment number two. But to even out the score, the police officer let me off with a verbal warning. Thank you, clean driving record and honesty!

Also on Wednesday, I went to the doctor and had to have some tests run. I was so late to my appointment due to construction that they didn’t have a chance to go over their findings with me. So I’m going back tomorrow to find out what’s up. Real talk: I’m pretty nervous about what the doctor is going to say. Any positive thoughts, prayers, + healing vibes are appreciated!

So if you’ve been following along with me for any bit of time, you’ll know that anxiety is something I’ve struggled with for a long time. That’s why today I’m outlining 4 action steps you can take to worry less and feel happier now. I have been using these steps all week to help me to quiet my mind and get through each day. So far, they have been really helpful for me and I hope they can help you too!

4 Action Steps to Worry Less and Feel Happier Now

1. Get it All Out

Whatever your going through must be really important and worrisome to you, otherwise you wouldn’t be concerned enough about it to be reading an article about how to worry less. If you’re like a lot of people, you might notice that you can’t find a balance between full out worrying like crazy and stuffing all your feelings in and acting like nothing’s wrong at all. Unfortunately, that can lead to physical side effects like headaches, stomach aches, and exhaustion. No good. The feelings have to go somewhere, so be intentional about how and when they come out!

ACTION STEP: Set aside a specific time to worry your little heart out. I’m serious! This will go either of two ways for you. Either A: it will be time for you to worry and you can finally let your feelings go, or B: you’ll realize that your worry has subsided. So set a reminder on your phone to sit down and fully process whatever is happening for you.

Set aside time to worry. You'll be thankful that you did or you'll won't be worried anymore. Click To Tweet

This weekend, I went to a wedding for some dear friends of ours. (Congrats again, guys!) My husband was one of the groomsmen, so there were times during the night that he was off doing groomsmen things and I was hanging out by myself. And when I was left by myself, my brain instantly thought “You’re not doing anything! Here’s a reminder of everything you’re afraid of.” I had to remind myself that this was not the time to worry. I’d have time to think about all that stuff when I got home. Just knowing that I’d have a moment at the end of the day to entertain my stress was enough to be able to worry less and get back onto the dance floor. It’s so simple guys.

2. Validate

Guys, sometimes feeling crazy is worse than whatever you’re worried about! Make sure you take the time to validate whatever you’re going through. Think back on your experiences to figure out why you might feel this way in the first place. For example, “If I hadn’t have gone through ____, I wouldn’t be feeling this way.” Therefore, whatever the reason you’re worried, it is valid, legitimate, and okay. It’s how you handle your worries that matters.

Whatever you feel is valid, legitimate, and okay. It's how you handle them that counts. Click To Tweet

ACTION STEP: Write down some affirmations that feel validating to you. If you aren’t sure where to start, try these on for size:

“It’s okay for me to be scared.”

“I will get through this even if it’s scary.”

“I’m taking steps to feel better.”

Repeat these affirmations whenever you need a pick-me-up.

3. Make a Plan

One of the worst parts about worrying is the “what-ifs.” So answer those questions! Come to a solution and give yourself one thing to worry less about.

ACTION STEP: Make a list of all your what-if’s, and then answer them! Make sure you’re nice and specific. Think about the likelihood of any of those fears coming true and rate them on a scale from 0-10. For each what-if, answer a “then” and a “how.” For example:

What if I get a bad review at work? Likelihood: 4/10. Then I would improve my performance by asking my boss for specific feedback on what I should work on.

Answer your what-if's to make an action plan for your worries. Click To Tweet

4. Make Changes or Accept Reality

Now that you’ve learned so much about your worries (good job by the way!), is there anything you can do about it? If so, go do it! You can do all the things! If there’s nothing you can do, that’s okay too.

Fighting against  worry does not help you worry less. In fact, it does quite the opposite. Have you ever paddled upstream only to feel exhausted? So you take a break and find that you’ve floated back to where you came from? Dealing with worry is sort of like that. So go with the flow. Going with the flow does not mean accepting life without question. You are given a paddle. So take charge of the flow.

Go with the flow, and use your paddle to control your direction. Click To Tweet

ACTION STEP: Get out there and enjoy your life. If there’s something tangible you can do about your worry, go do it.  You’ll feel so much better once you do. If there’s literally nothing you can do, try to do something to take your mind off your worry.

How do you worry less? Is there anything getting you down this week? Let me know in the comments and we can check in with each other!

4 Action Steps to Worry Less and Feel Happier Now

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  • Neely

    Yes yes yes! We all feel better when we have a plan!

  • Yolanda Ridley

    Such great advice. I like the idea of setting time aside to worry. I’m going to try this – as typically is there’s something heavy on my mind it stays through every moment of my day, making me feel sick (even physically). Pinned so I can read again later. Thanks 🙂

  • Great tips! I need to listen to these a lot of the time. Worrying can definitely consume me.

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  • Heather Rene

    Amazing tips – always a good reminder! Worry can be intoxicating and addicting, but having a clear path to get out of the spiral is always essential!

  • HappyMindHappyHome.com

    Great tips! Especially love #2. Validating your own emotions is so helpful

  • Samantha Carter

    This is amazing! I have been kept awake by worry every night for a week now, and I will almost definitely be using all of these tips tonight before bed! Thank you so much!

  • Elizabeth Johnson

    I love love love this! #4 is my jam. Seriously. I remind myself that there is no need to get upset about something I can’t change. I just have to accept reality and find something positive about the change. Also, I love that you included action steps. So helpful!

    • Thanks Elizabeth! That’s the one I struggle with the most but also the most helpful in my opinion.

  • I love this!! I think accepting reality is so key, because sometimes there’s nothing else you can do.

  • This is one of those posts I definitely needed to read today. I completely agree you should validate your feelings when feeling this way. Also, i love your tip about scheduling time to worry. Such a unwuire way of looking at it!

  • Bailey

    Getting all the worry out is most definitely a necessary step that often gets overlooked.

  • Love your steps! Letting it out definitely does the trick and is so often overlooked or ignored!

    • Most definitely! So many people just bottle up their emotions but they have to come out somehow. Better when you have control over it 🙂

  • Jenna Urben

    This is so relevant in my life right now. I will use these steps today, thank you for sharing!

  • Celeste Wright

    This is so great. thanks for sharing!!!

  • Validating is huge for me lately. I’ve found myself feeling so much better and more confident when I simply acknowledge that it’s OKAY to feel the way that I do, and then go right to focusing on action steps to improve the situation without trying to CHANGE the mood entirely.

    Comng Up Roses

    • Oh for sure! I think you hit the nail on the head that validating is not about changing, but just acknowledging. That alone can make a huge difference.

  • Christine Keys

    Yes! Validation is huge! You can’t move past it until you acknowledge and validate it. 🙂

  • I really needed to read this – thank you!

  • Maya Maceka

    Honestly I think we ALL could benefit to implement some of these steps in our life. As others have mentioned, I think validation is a big one with me also. Thanks for this!