Have you ever had those bad days that turn into bad weeks or months, and no matter what you do, you seem to slip right back into the pit? Around here in my world, I’ve been noticing that’s been happening to me.
As I’ve always said, my friends: I promise that I’ll never sugar coat anything or make myself out to seem like I have the perfect life. But I will try to make use of my experiences to help us all grow together.
You may have noticed that a lot of my posts lately have been about the hard stuff– burnout, social comparison, and staying strong during tough times, to name a few. Even though I write about ways to help you live a more inspired and positive life, I am not immune to struggling with bad days either.
I’ll be honest: life has been tough lately. Real tough. At this point, I’m not ready to spill my business all over the blog, but I’m hoping that someday I’ll have the courage to do that. Right now, I’m learning that this is just something that I have to go through whether I like it or not. I’m grateful to my family and friends who have helped me keep my head up, but I’m also grateful that they’ve given me the space to cry and just be. To be angry. To be sad. And to be scared.
My girl Rachel over at The Confused Millennial said it best in her post, 5 Signs it’s Time to Take a Step Back: “this is not a reflection of who I am, but where I am at.” I don’t like feeling the way I do. I’m not an inherently angry or sad person. But my attitude is a good indicator of what’s going on in my life right now– an indicator that I’m doing my best to handle everything but that I’m also stretched thin.
I’m trying to remember that in order to grow, you must push through the dirt and the darkness. You must survive the storms.In order to grow, you must push through the dirt and the darkness. You must survive the storms. Click To Tweet
I say all three, because what usually knocks me down isn’t one catastrophic experience. It’s a bunch of smaller problems that would be manageable on their own. But together, they create this mountain that I’m expected to climb, and quite frankly, I’m tired and out of shape and don’t want to climb a mountain! It’s summer. I should be relaxing. Instead, I’ve been thrown into figuring out how to navigate this unfamiliar terrain of fear and self-doubt.
4 Signs the Bad Days are Making you Better
I am convinced that nothing in life occurs without cause. There is a purpose for the bad days. The bad days do not define you. How you deal with them does. And what I’m experiencing is just growing pains as I become better than I was yesterday.The bad days do not define you. How you deal with them does. Click To Tweet
Here are 4 signs that the bad days are making you a better person.
1. You’re learning your limits
The only way to truly know your limits is to hit them. Hitting your limits is not an inherently bad thing. Actually, it’s a good thing! Now you know them, and you can prevent yourself from hitting them again.
The bad days are teaching you how to say no. They’re showing you when to set boundaries. They’re showing you exactly how much strength you have, and exactly when you need to recharge. Without failure, you won’t learn. If the bad days have shown you your limit, take note. You’ve learned something about yourself.
2. You’re finding direction
Have you ever felt like you’ve been walking around aimlessly through life with no clear idea of where you’re going? That can be both scary and disheartening. Listen to the things you say to yourself on your bad days, even if it’s not very nice. What is it that you really want? Are you unsatisfied in your job or your relationships? Are you feeling inadequate in some way?
I highly recommend taking the time to write down those thoughts. When you’re feeling better, those notes will help you make some concrete goals for your life.
3. You’re gaining appreciation for the good days
It’s so easy to go through the good days without even noticing they were good. We think we are entitled to good days, but the truth is, we aren’t. A good day is a gift, and the bad days help you appreciate the good days.A good day is a gift, and the bad days help you appreciate the good days. Click To Tweet
Think about the last time you were sick. I know I have literally said things like “I’ll never take breathing out of my nose for granted ever again.” But on most days, if you’re like me, you probably don’t think twice about being able to breathe easy. If you’re in a rut right now, you’re learning that you’ve taken advantage of the good days, and are gaining an appreciation for them.
4. You’re becoming resilient
Bad days never last forever. The storm always passes, even though some days they seem like they go on forever. Consider how many bad days you’ve survived. You have never not stopped crying, and you’ve never not stopped being afraid. Yes, the good days will end, but so will the bad days. You have survived every single bad day so far, and you will survive this one too.You have survived every single bad day so far, and you will survive this one too. Click To Tweet
Next month, I will be doing a feature called Ask The Light Owl, where I’ll be answering all your personal growth, mental health, and relationship questions. Pick my brain about anything you ever wanted to ask a counselor but never did. If you would prefer to remain anonymous, please let me know in your submission and I’ll be sure to leave your name out of the post. Asking your question does not automatically sign you up for my e-mail list.
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How have you grown from the bad days? What did you learn about yourself? Let me know in the comments!