My husband and I have never felt 100% financially comfortable where we felt like we could go out on even a weekly date night. We started dating when we were pretty young. I was 20 and he was 19. So right from the start, we had to start being clever with how we made every night a date night when we were together.
When we moved in together, I was a full-time Master’s student with enough student debt to buy a small house. Both of us worked at Target (Holla, discounts!) David actually worked at the Starbucks inside his Target store, which was pretty amazing for me as a coffeeholic. Sometimes our date nights literally consisted of me sitting in his Starbucks drinking a caramel macchiato and chit chatted while he worked.
Now we’re a little bit older and a lot more in debt. Between grad school loans and our mortgage, we don’t usually have too much leftover to go out and spend 50 dollars on dinner together each week. That’s why my husband and I try to make every night a date night. Knowing that each night when we come home will be filled with at least something fun makes our relationship and our lives in general more enjoyable. Here are 7 easy habits you can start tonight to make every night a date night.
Make Every Night a Date Night: 7 Easy Habits to Start Tonight
1. Have an evening ritual
Since David and I started living together, we have had the ritual of “locking us in” at the end of the day. It’s a little thing that we like to announce when we know that we are in for the night and have the rest of the evening to ourselves. It seems so silly to think about how wonderful it is to lock the deadbolt each evening, but it seriously changes the whole tone of the night! If you want to make every night a date night, consider starting with a ritual that you and your boo can do together.
2. Make dinner together
Some of our favorite date nights in have been when we cook fancy dinners together, but they don’t have to be elaborate. David and I enjoy making any food together, right down to grilled cheese or salads. As long as you can find a job for each of you, making dinner together can be a great way to connect.
Fun fact: David is actually the chef in our family. He went to culinary school for a bit and taught me most of what I know about cooking. Before we met, I didn’t know anything about putting together seasonings or how to cook chicken or anything. I learned by cooking with him at home for date nights in!
3. Sit at the dinner table
One thing that we are guilty of in our household is sitting in the living room in front of the TV for dinner. It’s easy to lose sight of the moment when you’re distracted by something else. Some of our best conversations happen at the dinner table.
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4. Plan ahead of time
This one falls into a similar category as creating a ritual. Talk about what you want to do together ahead of time! Not only will it keep you accountable, it will also give you something to look forward to.
My husband and I are die-hard Game of Thrones fans. (How about that finale, eh?) So we know that every Sunday is Game of Thrones night, and nothing will stand in our way of watching it. We also like to plan on playing a board game or watching a certain movie together. We also enjoy going for bike rides and having bonfires.
5. Text each other throughout the day
Nothing makes me quite as excited to come home than when I know that David is just as excited to see me as I am to see him. This is a really easy way to make every night a date night because you can set the mood before you even get home. Reach out and let them know you’re thinking of them and you’re excited to spend time with them. Date night shouldn’t feel like a chore.
6. Put the electronics away
Nothing kills the mood more than staring at your phones, so put your phones in a different room and get close. Cuddle under a blanket, or hold hands if cuddling isn’t your thing. Electronics disconnect. Find a way to connect.
7. Find a way to laugh
Laughter really is the best medicine. Not only does it help with a whole host of physical and mental concerns, but it’s great for relationships as well. Laughing builds connections and strengthens bonds. In fact, there’s research to support that there is an evolutionary component to laughter. We are attracted to people with a good laugh and laughter is literally contagious. So find a way to bring some laughter into your relationship each night. Make sure your laughter is directed at each other rather than just the TV. Party games are one of our favorite ways to do this.
How do you make every night a date night? What are some of your favorite date night in ideas? Let me know in the comments!
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