How to Fearlessly Handle Confrontation

How to Fearlessly Handle Confrontation

Confrontation is a word that makes a lot of people cringe. Lots of people avoid confrontation because they believe that if they don’t speak their mind, the issue will resolve on its own. Or they think that confrontation only makes the problem worse. People are so afraid of confrontation!

But what if I told you that confrontation is a great skill to have that can actually IMPROVE your relationships? It’s time that we stop thinking about confrontation as something to avoid and start thinking about it as a helpful tool. Today we’ll talk about how to handle confrontation fearlessly so you can start speaking your mind and making your relationships even better.

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27 Life Lessons on my Husband's 27th Birthday

27 Life Lessons on my Husband’s 27th Birthday

Today is my husband David’s 27th birthday! I talk about him enough on here that I think it’s pretty obvious he is an important part of my life. To commemorate his arrival to his late-20s, I decided to share 27 life lessons I learned from David for his 27th birthday.

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Self-Care Isn’t Selfish: 3 Ways Self-Care Benefits Others

Self-care is one of the latest buzzwords, and a controversial one at that. Some people are huge advocates of self-care.  Others say it’s unnecessary. Either side of the argument boils down to whether or not self-care is selfish.

There is a misconception that self-care is the same thing as self-indulgence. It’s not. Self-care is simply providing for your own needs. One of the biggest reasons that people don’t practice self-care regularly is because they feel guilty about putting so much focus on themselves. They associate “me time” with ignoring responsibilities. But this is an over-simplified view of what true self-care really is. Putting yourself first does not mean you’re putting others last. Self-care is not black or white. And self-care is not selfish. In fact, practicing your own self-care can be extremely beneficial to the people you love! Here’s how.

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12 Creative Date Night Ideas for Any Budget

12 Creative Date Night Ideas for Any Budget

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It’s been over 10 years now since I met my husband, David. That blows my mind! Sometimes it feels like we’ve gone on every date in the book. As fun as a dinner date can be, we like to mix it up with more creative date night ideas now and then to keep things interesting. We have date night at least once per week if not more, because we get creative and don’t need to spend a lot of money!  Here are some unique date night ideas that you can incorporate into your week that won’t break the bank.

[related: Six Important Lessons for a Rock-Solid Relationship]

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10 Tips to Help Someone with Anxiety

Before I learned how to manage my anxiety, a part of me wished that there was a guidebook for my friends and family on how to help someone with anxiety. Having anxiety can make a person feel incredibly helpless and out of control. Oftentimes, a person with anxiety knows that their fears are irrational, but anxiety doesn’t work like that. It likes to make a person feel like the world is ending! Panic attacks can make a person feel like they’re dying. This was all true for me. Unfortunately, I got a lot of bad advice from people over the years, like “You just need to calm down,” or “you’re being unreasonable.” Of course I knew I was being unreasonable and calming down was exactly what I wanted to do! But when an anxious brain is in overdrive, it can be nearly impossible to think about things logically. This kind of feedback can, over time, lead an anxious person to feel ashamed and even crazy.

Over time, I learned how to manage my anxiety better. I also learned how to help other people help me. Now, panic attacks are few and far between. I think about how much easier my life would have been if I would have had some specific strategies to share with my friends and family in order to help me better! Today, I’m sharing some of the best tips to help someone with anxiety. For those of you who struggle with anxiety, feel free to share these ideas with your support network to better help you!

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Six Important Lessons for a Rock-Solid Relationship

Six Important Lessons for a Rock-Solid Relationship

It’s official: wedding season is in full swing! Last weekend, I spent Saturday at a bridal shower and Sunday at a wedding. Weddings are very emotional for me because I can’t help but think back to David’s and my wedding and reflect on our relationship. I cry at every wedding I attend. I can’t help it!

David and I got married in the fall of 2015, so we are still technically newlyweds. Did you know that couples are considered newlyweds for up to FOUR YEARS after they’re married? That seems a little long to me, but then again David and I have been together since 2009. We recently celebrated our 8-year dating anniversary back in April!

[Related: 12 Creative Date Night Ideas for Any Budget]

Our relationship has changed a lot over the years. We met the summer after I graduated high school but didn’t start dating until two years later. We went through a lot of “firsts” together. Today, our relationship is stronger than ever. I love wedding season because it gives me a chance to reflect on how far we’ve come.

Speaking of David, he is writing with me today!

This is us! Photo cred to Kendra Dolson at Little Blue Bird Photography.

David: Hello!

Amanda: I wish you all could see the silliness that is already happening over here in our living room! Maybe we should have done this in a video format.

David: No thanks. It’s a little soon for a video of me.

Amanda: David and I have gotten a lot of comments over the years about how we are a “model couple,” but it hasn’t always been that way. Our relationship has taken a lot (I mean A LOT) of hard work to get us to the point we are at. Today David and I are going to talk about the six most important lessons we have learned to have a rock-solid relationship.

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Letting Go of Toxic People: Why Now is the Right Time

Letting Go of Toxic People: Why Now is the Right Time

Before we get started, let’s take a moment to consider what it was that made you click on this post. Who are you thinking of right now? Toxic people come in all forms: friends, family, significant others, coworkers– they don’t discriminate. I’d like you to take a couple seconds to listen to your intuition. What is your gut telling you about the person you’re thinking about?

Identifying Toxic People

There are several warning signs to watch for when considering if you’re in a toxic relationship. Here are 10 of the most common warning signs of toxic people.

10 Signs of a Toxic Relationship

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Work-Life Balance: Manage your Time, Improve Relationships, & Avoid Burnout

Work-Life Balance: Manage your Time, Improve Relationships, & Avoid Burnout

What is Work-Life Balance?

We live in a society that glorifies over-working. We “werk werk werk,” and at the end of the work day, we jump in our cars to start our “side hustles.” “Work hard, stay humble” is our mantra. Relax at the end of the day? Cook that Pinterest meal? Work-life balance is a distant ideal.

The line between work and life is becoming increasingly blurred. In a recent study, researchers found that 81% of American workers check their work e-mail outside of work hours. Work is the second highest source of stress, with 65% of polled Americans reporting work-related stress.

But having fun, pursuing your hobbies, and loving your life is possible. These changes in your routine will help you be able to manage your time at work, get along better with your coworkers, and avoid burnout so that when you come home, you can enjoy the life you’ve worked hard for!

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The Complete Guide to Making Friends as an Adult

The Complete Guide to Making Friends as an Adult

The Struggle is Real!

Let’s be honest. Making friends as an adult is not easy. Remember the days when sharing a toy meant instant friendship? Unfortunately, meeting new people and making friends in adulthood isn’t as simple as it was when we were kids. Things are… complicated now. How do you meet people without it feeling contrived?

If you’re anything like me, meeting new people can feel like a daunting task. My anxiety likes to take the reins and make me ask questions like “What if this gets really awkward? How am I going to bail? What if they don’t like me? What if I say something dumb?” In high school and college, meeting people didn’t seem so hard. It seems that there were always opportunities to make friends.

Making friends is not a one-size-fits all experience! For me, I have to make meeting people as convenient as possible because, quite frankly, I am a busy lady and if I don’t make it easy for myself, I know I have the tendency to back out on plans. Consider how much time you’re willing to spend with your new friends, and if their lifestyle will mesh well with yours.

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